I set a goal to do the splits this year.
I've never done the splits. I'm not even close. Here's my laughable starting photo.
And yet the goal doesn't really matter.
What matters is my mental model of how I, Diana, learn to do new things. Sometimes impossible seeming things. And my real goal is to learn the flaws in this model and update it using the splits as my vehicle.
Goals are nothing more than wishes.
And even if you have a plan for accomplishing your goal, that's not as strong as having a mental model for how you as a person generally achieve goals.
This Goals Achievement Mental Model would include answers to the following questions:
My goal is not just to achieve new things each year, it's to refine my philosophy about how I achieve things. Tweaking my mental model each year gives me a clear roadmap to follow, making it easier to stay on track and avoid getting sidetracked or discouraged. And it helps me spend my time better. I'm dedicating 15 minutes a day to doing the splits. That's a very big return on a minimal output.
So while the goal itself may be important, your personal methodology of how you accomplish goals or resolutions is a lot more valuable to your long term growth. If you can upgrade your mental model for achieving goals each year, you'll find that your growth becomes exponential.
Don't get me wrong, I do want to hear about your New Year's Resolutions! It's fun to go for big things! It's just that the goal itself doesn't interest me nearly as much as your mental model to get there.